What better way to greet the wonderful weather right now in Hyderabad than with a business post. Business as in the -ness of being busy. Aarathi and I have been discussing and trying to improve how we live for many years. Aarathi Selvan is a licensed psychotherapist and one of the first bloggers I began following. When she introduced me to contemplative photography, I realized this was what I had been trying to do all my life. She conducts Mindfulness and Creative Journaling Workshops in addition to her private practice. This weekend, April 17-19, 2015, she has put together a three-day workshop on Intentional Living at Country Club, Begumpet, Hyderabad. The facilitators include contemplative photographers, artists, body mind awareness experts, and peak performance coaches in addition to Aarathi herself. The course fee covers materials, lunch and refreshments for three days. Her guest post at this time has relevance at so many levels for each one of us. Over to Aarathi. Enjoy!
I know busy. I am busy. I believe that a busy life makes mindfulness mandatory. Here are ten tips based on what I recommend, remind myself and practice:
1. Do what you are most passionate about. And if you are already doing it, then be mindful about those irksome aspects of your work and pour some love into those areas too. That's the way to be most alive at work and at home.
2. Stop thinking about what to do next. What are you doing right now? Just focus on that.
3. Stop feeling guilty about what you did or what you are not able to. Persistent, gnawing guilt is unnecessary, it only perpetuates more of itself. Instead, feel bad if you must and learn from the event in order to move on.
4. Wake up early, practice yoga and meditation (or some form of grounding practice) and partake in some creative activity before you start your day (if you can). The creative activity could be anything from writing, drawing, quilling, whatever rocks your boat.
5. If you desire more clarity and focus to your day keep to-do lists and organize your day. Your brain cannot remember everything. If you must, keep a planner and schedule home and work stuff on different planners (that you can use in either places). Without overwhelming yourself complete the to-do lists as much as you can while you are meet the day as it unfolds.
|My Wall Planner|
6. Schedule self-care to-do's in your planner too. In my room, on the wall I have a planner up for the week (besides this monthly planner you see in the picture. I remind myself to keep next day's work clothes out, to care for my skin-face and body, and to care for my hair. If you are thinking "what the hell" then let me tell you, in my busy life with baby, hubby and work I tend to easily let go of basic self care of even applying moisturizer to my skin. This serves as a reminder for me to take 2 minutes out for myself, come hail or storm.
7. Put up a planner in the kitchen too, so you can keep track of groceries, what to cook each day and so forth. I need this, ABSOLUTELY. Why? because I really dislike cooking but I know so well, how important it is to make a good home cooked food for the family. So by putting this planner up I prepare myself to like cooking, or deciding on what to cook and so forth. Here are some ways to spruce up your planners.
8. Keep a gratitude journal. I have been doing this a while...I write about three things I am grateful about everyday. I try to write everyday. Studies indicate that people who maintain a gratitude diary are more happy than those who dont. While I dont know about happy I feel more grounded in the reality of my days. I feel a greater sense of appreciation for the low points and the high points of my days and I also feel more capable of managing difficult patches of my life.
9. More recently, in an email exchange with a mentor, she gave me a precious piece of advise. She advised me to journal everyday (or everytime I remember) about three things I am grateful for about WHO I AM as a way to build a sense of self acceptance and love. I cannot tell how unbelievabily glad I am for this amazing piece of advice. This rings as important for me because I often struggle with accepting myself for who I am in the right now-especially when I am angry, frustrated or exhausted. I expect to function with complete grace and wisdom at all times and my demands upon myself are really my worst enemy. This acceptance of myself as who I am is a way for me to accept everyone I love for exactly who they are right now. Write about three things you are grateful for about WHO YOU ARE right now.
10. " I have no time" is just a ruse for "I dont want to do it". Even if it is only 5 mintues, take some time out to practice the activity you love most- for me it is many five minutes of meditation, scrapbooking, art journalling and self care. And why do that? To stay creative, mindful about everyday life.
What helps you stay mindful in your busy life?
[See the graphic below for a quick look at what the three day workshop will try and accomplish. Do RSVP and register if you plan to come, it will help everyone.]